UNREQUITED LOVE

Needless to say, falling in love is a great feeling which contains a wide array of emotions. When someone feels them, he may have dreams, hopes, passion and a powerful sense of intimacy. However, not all stories necessarily end happily, so when you declare your love, it might be rejected, causing a variety of feelings which are hard to bear. If so, knowing how to deal with unrequited love can be helpful to normalise faster.

 One main problem with being rejected is that it deals a direct blow to the ego which is of great importance for our psychological well-being. Thus, it may cause such negative emotions as feelings of worthlessness, despair, despondency and the like. The main mistake made in the case of unreciprocated love is taking the rejection personally. With a rational analysis, it can be noticed that being rejected doesn't mean you are worthless or not deserving .Social relationships are too complex and it is not always possible for a person to understand and reciprocate your feelings. So, realizing that the problem doesn’t originate in your mistakes or shortcomings is a necessary step to be taken.

  Another false but also common approach is associating happiness completely with that special person. At the first sight, it may seem like you have to be with her to be happy but a variety of psychological research and common sense show that happiness comes from inside. To clarify, when you make your happiness depend on external factors, it will be just temporary and control won't in your own hands. However, when you feel the happiness inside of you, it is a much more long lasting and satisfying happiness. Hence, thinking you won't find happiness or love without a certain person is just a fallacy and noticing this fact will make you feel liberated.

  The last aspect of tackling rejection in love is to perceive it as a valuable experience, because very few experiences in life can teach you about your own self and life as perfectly as experiencing unrequited love. So, this is a great opportunity to become aware of your inner world,  explore your strengths and weaknesses and work on them, thereby bringing about a better you and enabling you to stand stronger against life. Thus, such an attitude will make it possible to turn a bitter experience into an opportunity.

  To sum up, unreciprocated love has an extremely bitter taste. However, it will be easier to deal with    it by remembering that it is a unique opportunity to explore your inner world and find the origin of true happiness, thereby avoiding depression and constant negative feelings.